Life is not always peaches and cream. In fact, often times we have to deal with things that are uncomfortable, sad, and even heartbreaking. Saying goodbye to a loved one encompasses all of those things, and more. Whether we are saying goodbye due to a move, or saying goodbye because of the end of life, it can feel like our heart is shattering to pieces.
Some time ago, I was thinking about my Little Bear and his namesake, Bear. Bear was very important to Little Bear, in many ways. He was his friend, mentor, father-figure, and security. On that day, while I was thinking about Little Bear and Bear, I had the sudden urge to reach out to Bear's human, Jordan. As I went on Facebook to her page, I saw her post and my heart sunk. Bear had passed away. Even though I had the feeling that this happened, I was still surprised and saddened to see it in writing.
Before reaching out to Jordan to give my condolences, I spoke to Little Bear and Bear. The two were excited and happy to be reunited. Little Bear orchestrated a big welcoming commity and the theme was a love-filled "Welcome Home". Bear's only sadness was knowing how hard his departure was for Jordan, who he loved so very much! I asked Bear if there were any messages for Jordan and of course, he had plenty. The most persistent message was a reference to Christopher Robin and Winnie the Pooh. Laughing, he said he is now in the role of Christopher Robin. Bear also asked that Jordan continue speaking to him, and watching for his messages.
I reached out to Jordan and told her the messages rom Bear. At first, she was uncertain of the meaning. She did tell me, however, that she received "Finding Joy: A dog's Tale" the day of Bear's passing. She mentioned a passage that felt like it was written for her in this exact moment. It reads:
"I went for a last walk with Bear. I did not want to leave him. I was sad and afraid. Bear told me to be brave. This move was one step closer to finding my purpose, and I must be strong and brave. When I told him that I would mis him and still needed him, he laughed and reminded me that we were able to speak anytime we wanted. All that was required was for me to think of him and send pictures."
After some conversation, Jordan and I ended our chat feeling closer and feeling the love from both little Bear and Bear. I thought that was the end of it; afterall, I couldn't expect constant communication with these pups! A few days later, I received a message from Jordan. She looked up her favorite episode of Winnie the Pooh, and wouldn't you know Bear's message was loud and clear! The video clip was short, but long enough to make me cry.
"Pooh Bear, what if some day there came a tomorrow when we were apart?.........
If ever there's a tomorrow when we're not together, there is something you must remember. " Pooh yawns. "And what might that be, Christohper Robin?"
"You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think!.......But the most important thing is...Even if we are apart, I'll always be with you. I'll always be with you!".
Little Bear and Bear sent us messages to remind us both that energy does not die. it changes form but does not die. We miss the physical presence, but we all have access to the soul of whoever we are missing. All that is required is an open heart. Think of your loved ones with your heart. Ask them to visit you. Talk to them and listen for their answers. They are always with us.
Transcript and image from the movie: "Pooh's Grand Adventure: The Search for Christopher Robin".